Help with writing a eulogy for a funeral
Funeral Celebrant
Writing a eulogy can feel like one of the most emotional and difficult parts of planning a funeral service. Many people worry about finding the right words, saying too much, or not saying enough. You are not alone in feeling this way. With gentle support and guidance, a eulogy can become a meaningful tribute that reflects a life with honesty, warmth, and respect.
What is a Eulogy | Who writes the Eulogy | Reading the Eulogy
What is a eulogy at a funeral
A eulogy is a spoken tribute that honours the life of the person who has died. It is usually shared during the funeral service and gives family and friends a chance to reflect on who that person was, what they meant to others, and the memories they leave behind.
A eulogy is not about listing dates and facts. It is about telling the story of a life in a way that feels personal and heartfelt. It helps bring the person into the room through shared memories and can offer comfort at a time when everything feels uncertain.
What is usually included in a eulogy
Most eulogies include a mix of personal stories, character traits, and important life moments. You might talk about someone’s kindness, sense of humour, dedication to family, or the things they loved most. Small details often mean the most, like a favourite expression, a hobby, or a family tradition.
It can also include milestones such as where they grew up, their work, or the people who were most important to them. The balance depends on the person. Some eulogies are light and filled with warm memories, others are more reflective. There is no single “right” format.
What a eulogy includes, who can read it
A funeral eulogy is usually a reflection on someone’s life, their personality, their relationships, and the moments that made them who they were. It might include favourite sayings, family stories, achievements, hobbies, or small everyday habits that meant a lot to those who knew them.
There are no strict rules about who should read the eulogy. It can be delivered by a family member, a close friend, several people sharing memories, or by the funeral celebrant on the family’s behalf. The most important thing is that the words feel right, not who stands at the front.
Write your Funeral Service in advance
A eulogy carries a lot of emotional weight. It is not just a speech, it is a farewell, a tribute, and a moment of reflection shared with everyone who has gathered to remember someone special. Many families tell me they feel pressure to “get it right,” which can make the task feel overwhelming.
Grief can make it hard to think clearly or organise memories. You may worry about becoming too upset to speak, forgetting something important, or not knowing how to begin. These feelings are completely natural. A eulogy does not need to be perfect or formal. It simply needs to be sincere and true to the person you are remembering.
What if I feel too emotional to speak
It is very common to worry about becoming upset while reading a eulogy. Grief is unpredictable, and standing in front of a room full of people can feel daunting.
If you would like your words to be part of the service but feel unsure about speaking, I can read the eulogy on your behalf. Some families also choose to have a printed copy available so others can follow along. There is no failure in deciding not to speak. The most important thing is that the tribute is shared in a way that feels right for you.
It is very common to worry about becoming upset while reading a eulogy. Grief is unpredictable, and standing in front of a room full of people can feel daunting.
If you would like your words to be part of the service but feel unsure about speaking, I can read the eulogy on your behalf. Some families also choose to have a printed copy available so others can follow along. There is no failure in deciding not to speak. The most important thing is that the tribute is shared in a way that feels right for you.
A eulogy does not have to be perfect
Many people worry about saying the wrong thing or forgetting an important detail. In truth, those listening are not judging the words. They are remembering the person and sharing the moment with you.
A meaningful eulogy comes from the heart. It can be simple, gentle, and real. That is what people connect with most. Perfection is not required. Honesty and love are more than enough.
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How I help with writing a eulogy
As part of planning a personalised funeral service, I offer support with writing a eulogy that feels natural and meaningful. I spend time listening carefully as you share memories, stories, and details about your loved one. From there, I help shape those memories into a gentle, well structured tribute.
If you would like to speak but feel unsure, I can help you draft and refine your words. If speaking on the day feels too difficult, I can read the eulogy for you with care and respect. My role is to make this part of the service feel supported, not stressful, so you can focus on remembering your loved one.
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If you would like support with writing a eulogy or planning a personalised funeral service, I am here to guide you with care and understanding. Please feel free to get in touch to talk things through at your own pace.
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